Interpersonal
conflicts are inevitable and they happen when people have disagreements with
ideas. It can also be an outcome of a lack of good communication skills. Here
is a scenario to consider:
Amy and
Jansen are a very close couple who have been together for 4 years. They have
just graduated from university and Jansen had started working in a well-known finance
company whereas Amy was still unemployed. Even though Jansen was a newly
employed staff in the company, they did not spare him from the number of projects
he was assigned to.
Amy felt
neglected after watching Jansen burying his head in front of his computer day
and night for several weeks without sparing some time from work for her. She compared
with other couples around her who also have busy schedules but could still make
time for each other but not Jansen. She also felt that the necessity for him to
take a break to prevent his body from overworking. With this thought, Amy
finally proposed a plan to Jansen about having a short weekend getaway to Bali.
Jansen, frustrated, replied that he currently does not have the extra time for
even a short trip since the deadlines are nearing. He also stressed to Amy
about the importance of giving a good impression to his superior since he was a
newly employed staff.
Despite
several attempts to convince Jansen to accept her idea, he only got more
irritated by her. Amy decided to take a break from this relationship because
she did not felt the need to be with someone who could not be there for her.
Would this
really be the end of their 4-year relationship or was there something Jansen
could have done in terms of giving Amy a better reply?
